As mentioned in a
previous post, we're reading "The Scarlet Pimpernel" for our church book club, which meets tomorrow night. I'm the discussion leader this time around, and I couldn't be more excited.
Well... I guess if I were completely done, I'd be a little more excited and less worried about finishing by tomorrow night... but, yeah, pretty jazzed about it.
For those of you unfamiliar with "The Scarlet Pimpernel," the title character is a brilliant hero who masquerades as a snobby, stupid fop in order to mask his identity and succeed in his feats of derring-do, snatching people from the guillotine's grasp during the Reign of Terror. It's quite the page-turner; I highly recommend it!
So, as I've been reading, I've been surprised by how much the hero's ruse reminds me of myself. Granted, I'm not playing the part of an imbecile for the sake of rescuing French royals, but this is something I've learned about myself recently. I definitely play up my next-to-the-Valley-girl roots and act more superficial than I really am when I'm not perfectly at ease in a social situation. My voice even gets a little higher pitched and more bubbly, and in the end, I usually feel like I've come off like a total airhead (which, as anyone who knows me well, knows I'm definitely not). Blame it on a childhood of fitting in better with adults than my peers - I guess I try to make myself fit in better... but it doesn't work.
It's made me think a lot about the charades that we all enact in our daily lives to mask our real selves. Some hide behind sarcasm; others retreate behind a veil of indifference. It's like the Billy Joel classic, "The Stranger":
Well we all have a face
That we hide away forever
And we take them out and show ourselves
When everyone has gone
Some are satin, some are steel
Some are silk and some are leather
They're the faces of the stranger
But we love to try them on
Well we all fall in love
But we disregard the danger
Though we share so many secrets
There are some we never tell
Why were you so surprised
That you never saw the stranger
Did you ever let your lover see
The stranger in yourself?
Don't be afraid to try again
Everyone goes south
Every now and then
You've done it, why can't someone else?
You should know by now
You've been there yourself
Once I used to believe
I was such a great romancer
Then I came home to a woman
That I could not recognize
When I pressed her for a reason
She refused to even answer
It was then I felt the stranger
Kick me right between the eyes
You may never understand
How the stranger is inspired
But he isn't always evil
And he is not always wrong
Though you drown in good intentions
You will never quench the fire
You'll give in to your desire
When the stranger comes along.
I wonder why it is that we adopt such facades to artificially create barriers. I thought of this yesterday when I ran across an e-mail from a few years ago where I was telling an old roommate about my new friends down here in California. I described one friend as "tough to crack" - which made me laugh, reading it now, because we're really close - there are many an adjective I could apply to this dear friend, but "tough to crack" is no longer one. Perhaps still a little enigmatic, yes - because no matter how well you know someone, they'll always maintain some degree of surprise. Anyways, I guess at some point that shell crumbled - but why? And on whose side?
Why is it that we put up these barriers in the first place? I mean, I pretty much wear my heart on my sleeve - more so than I'd like to, really - but even I still hold back. When I stop and get introspective, I guess it's like, if I don't show the real me, then if I face rejection, it's okay because they're not really rejecting me, right? But it's such a two-edged sword because at the same time, that True Christa is waaaaaay cooler than the Social Christa. Granted, if you're among my blog readership, it means you're on my short list - which, de facto, means that you've seen the True Christa more often than not.
Anyways - does anyone else do this? What are the masks you hide behind - and how have you found the courage to come out from hiding?